Never fight during a fight..!

“Why can’t we overlook others’ weaknesses ? “ Don’t we overlook our own limitations ? Of course we do ! All of us repeatedly commit mistakes – same mistakes, and all of us expect others to be tolerant towards our negatives. Then why can’t we be tolerant towards others’ negatives, especially those we love so much ?

Misunderstandings do arise in every relationship. There are moments when our patience is tested. When the heart dominates the mind we become emotional. During such moments, silence is the best weapon to end the battle of words. Both the parties may be right in their own way but our improper communication in a delicate situation makes it difficult for the other to accept our thinking or understand our feelings. Discuss any issue much after the issue is over, never when the issue is on.

The proper time to discuss the differences of opinion is a neutral time – a time when the mind is stable and open to inputs from outside. This is a time without conflicts; a time when the mind is able to discriminate between what is right and what is wrong. Neutral time is when it is not the heart that is ruling the mind but it is the intellect that is in control of the emotions. It is a time when we are more concerned about what is right rather than who is right.

IN A NUTSHELL Relationships are to be treasured, not to be destroyed. Let us save our relationships for a lifetime by holding silence during a fight and communicating during neutral times.